, jen, let's start talking about, giving those parameters, what happens, what are the dynamics that happens in that military family, and what do we need to begin to look out for? um, it's a very isolating feeling, for not only for the service member but also for the family. and, and, in my case, i'm not only a veteran but my brother is also a veteran. so, i got to be on both ends of the spectrum. and, also i'm married now, and my husband was not with me when i deployed-we were just friends. but, he is actually getting to feel the repercussions of my deployment even though we weren't together when i was overseas. so, um, the span is huge, you know, it goes not only from the people who you are with and a part of your life then but is the aftermath and the people who are with you years later. so, we not to forget about that as well. um, for me, when i was deployed, you know, the being taken away from the family aspect, and it being another part of my life was, like i said, isolating. very, very isolating-you feel kinda, very lost, but you have your military family to fall back on.